The Queen Bey has just shared with us some real life lessons with her latest video offering titled Yours & Mine, a documentary film in which she talks about her humanity, life as a celebrity, her God-given gifts and loves.
I sometimes wish I could just be anonymous and walk down the street just like everyone else. Before I was famous I was a girl on a hill with a guitar. I was a girl that just wanted a beautiful view of the beach. And now that I am famous it is really really difficult to do very simple things. I think it’s the hardest thing to give up. But my mother always taught me to be strong and to never be a victim, never make excuses, never expect anyone else to provide for me, things that I know I can provide for myself. I have dreams and I feel like I actually have the power to make those dreams become a reality.
When you are famous no one looks at you like a human anymore. You become the property of the public. There is nothing real about it. You can’t put your finger on who I am. I can’t put my finger on who I am. I am complicated. I grew up with a lot of conflict and traumas. I have been through a lot. Just like everyone else. My escape was always music and I am so lucky that that is my job. But if I accomplished all of these things and had no one to share with it will be worth nothing. You need something real in order for any of this stuff to matter. You have to have something that is forever. Something that is invisible.
I was brought up seeing my mother trying to please and make everyone comfortable and I always felt that it was my job to fix the problem. People pleaser. But I am no longer afraid of conflict. And I don’t think conflict is a bad thing. ‘Cause I know that when you grow up and learn a few things, you are no longer afraid of letting go. You are no longer afraid of the unknown. You are no longer afraid of going into certain places in your body in your mind, in your soul that may make you feel uncomfortable. And it all starts with if you can look at yourself in the mirror and like that person you know?
If I hadn’t gone through some of the painful experiences in my life, I would not be me. I feel like my body is borrowed and this life is very temporary. I watched my friend’s body deteriorate and to see someone pass on so gracefully put everything into perspective. We do not value ourselves enough. Especially young people don’t really appreciate how brilliant our bodies are. I have always been very specific and very choosey… very choosey (laughs) about what I do with my body and who I wanna share that with. People feel like they lose something when they get married. But it doesn’t have to be that way. There is nothing more exciting than having a witness to your life.
I always considered myself a feminist although I was always afraid of that word because people put so much on it. When honestly its very simple it is just a person that believes in equality for men and women. Men and women balance each other out and we have to get to a point where we are comfortable with appreciating each other. I have a lot of empathy for men and the pressures that they go through and the cultures that have been created especially for African American men. And I have the same empathy for women and the pressures we go through. A woman has to provide so many things for her children. I consider myself a humanist. You know everybody is not good at everything. You know it’s okay to depend on someone. It’s actually what we are supposed to do. We are supposed to depend on each other. And when you find the person that you trust and you love and you feel is going to respect you and take all the sh!t you have and turn it around and bring out the best in you, it is the most powerful thing you can ever feel in your life. Happiness comes from you. No one else can make you happy. You make you happy. and one thing that is for sure, the love I have for music, for my husband, for my child, is something that will last far beyond my life.