Sierra Leone’s Most Eligible Bachelors US Edition: Part 1

They say a good man is really hard to find, and good Sierra Leonean men do not exist. So much betrayal out there, and misunderstanding that Sierra Leonean women have given up on finding love in the community. Conditions seem most dire in the US diaspora especially and in the heart of the DMV specifically. So to begin get us all back to finding love, and falling in love, I have put together my personal picks of eligible, kind hearted, “clin belleh” men.

How I found them? Three of them I know personally and absolutely adore. These three guys are three of my favorite people in the DMV, and men who any woman would be lucky to date. The other two I interviewed at length about life, and love. Based on their answers, I would definitely go on a date with either of them. So here we go.

My pick of Sierra Leone’s Most Eligible Bachelors on the East Coast. They are unmarried, and definitely open to love.

Note: *This is a light-hearted good intentioned post, please don’t make me regret it. Haha*

Eligible Bachelor: Amara O Kuyateh, 40, Maryland

Amara is the personification of a gentleman. He is divorced, and a father of 3.There are very few people out there who are as kind, and thoughtful as Amara. He is a great listener and he gives really good advice. Its really difficult to meet and connect with Sierra Leonean men of a certain age who are capable of having platonic relationships with women. Amara is not like that. He is a stand up guy, and I really believe that any woman would be lucky to have him, and not just that, when he finds that right lady, he will treat her like a queen. He is a God-fearing muslim and rarely misses Jumaah.

Amara O Kuyateh Amara O Kuyateh1

Eligible Bachelor: Alusaine Yansaneh, 37, Maryland

Alusaine Yansaneh1 Alusaine Yansaneh

 

The People’s Ambassador is probably the most clean belleh man we know. He has compassion for others, and “no” noh dey na im mot. If you ask him and he can help, he will. On the surface a woman might be afraid of dating Alusaine, because he is always out at events, as one of the DMVs most sought after promoters. However Alusaine is not a womanizer. No Maam. He is really just a village boy from Port Loko looking for the right one. I love Alusaine because he is the kind of man to give you a shoulder to cry on, hold your hand, and rub you feet. Again any woman would be lucky to win his heart, another perfect gentleman. You would really have to be something special though, Al’s a tough one to impress.

Eligible Bachelor: Bai Kamara, 30, New Jersey

Please meet Bai, Who I have never met but from our interview I was kinda impressed, and I definitely feel anyone who can be honest and open like this is worth the time.

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Hey Vickie..I’m an eligible bachelor..I definitely wanna settle down..hopefully with a Sierra Leonean sister..but, we SALONE sister dem Na Dae normor…sigh..lol

Vickie Remoe
Who are you?  What makes you a catch, and most importantly,  you belleh clean?

Bai Kamara
Haha..depends what you mean by “belleh clean”. I’m sure some of us do have a past but yes me belleh clean..I think I’m a great catch because I have a positive attitude about everything, I’m kind and passionate. I do not envy others. I love it when others are successful. Rhetorically speaking, I feed off that. It makes me want to do more.

Vickie Remoe: Do you believe in God?

Bai Kamara: Yes I do believe in God. A strong Christian. I used to sing in my church choir until 2011 But I must admit, it has been a little difficult finding the right one lately mainly because I have a “baggage”. I have a 3 yr old son who is my world.

Vickie Remoe
What keeps you up at night?

Bai Kamara
What keeps me up at night?..Good question..on weekdays, nothing. I have to up early the next day for work..lol

Vickie Remoe
So you don’t worry about work, your passions, your son?

Bai Kamara
To tell you the truth, besides my son I try  not to worry too much about things. Work will always be work. My passion will be there as long as I work harder on it. I learned something a while ago..”worrying and stressing is about things is like sitting on rocking chair..it gives you something to do but in reality, it gets you nowhere”

Vickie Remoe
Such wisdom:)

Bai Kamara
Yes ma’am

Vickie Remoe
What would a woman find most troubling about you? As in your flaws.

Bai Kamara
Oh wow..another great question.
Hmmmm, I’m a procrastinator..lol..
I’m working on it though..haha..sometimes, I’ll say “babe, I’m gonna call you back”..I’ll have my phone with me knowing that I’m supposed to call and I won’t. I’ll say “hmmm, I’ll call her in few minutes” then I’ll never call..But I’m working on it because I realize that it questions my integrity.

Vickie Remoe
Hahahaha. Trouble. Who are you closest to in your family?

Bai Kamara

My two older siblings..I’m very close with my brother but I talk to my sister about everything..she’s like my mother

Vickie Remoe
Whose approval would u want if u met a woman u liked?

Bai Kamara: Hmmm..I’ll say nobody but ours(my woman and I)..I’ll definitely listen to my parents and others but when it comes down to it, the person that truly matters is us. But my parents are very understanding.

Vickie Remoe
What do you like the most about women in general. What is it about women or a woman that makes you think, I wanna get to know her?

Bai Kamara
Oh wow..everyone that knows me will tell you this: I’m attracted to smart females. Strong/independent females. Someone that has a natural look.(yes, it matters). I’m not trying to change anyone, but I’m turned off by the Nicki Minaj, Barbie doll types. I like natural. No or minimal make ups.
Someone that is goal oriented. A person that knows what they want. One of my favorite question to ask a female is : what is your 5 year plan? You could tell a lot by what she says..

Vickie Remoe
I see. If you met the right woman today and by right I mean the woman who is right for you, how long would it take you to pop the questions?

Bai Kamara
If it feels right and everything feels good..I’ll say less than 2yrs

Vickie Remoe
So last and final question

Bai Kamara
Yes ma’am

Vickie Remoe
When someone has hurt you what can they do to make it up. Whats the best way to get back to love? How do you say sorry to Bai

Bai Kamara
It depends on what the person did..usually, all it takes is a sincere apology. I’m very sympathetic and understanding that nobody is perfect and your loved ones are bound to hurt you a in a way.

Vickie: So excited. On the real based on your answers I would so date you. And you are a catch

 Eligible Bachelor: Abu Kamara, 32, DMV

Hmmm ladies meet Abu. Another one I haven’t met but he definitely has plenty potential. Oh and that smile, and that skin :-). Abu is looking for someone to travel with. Is that you?

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Abu Kamara

Vickie Remoe
I am hella serious. I wanna help men and women find love. Not joking. Too many wonderful Sierra Leonean women out there scared of Sierra Leonean men. Oona broda dem don spoil all tin. Who are you. Why are you a catch. And most importantly you belleh clean?

Abu Kamara:
haha “you belleh clean”…I’m just plain ol Abu from Salone oh mama. But u serious about this match making though? It may be a good opportunity biz wise if you have a creative angle an twist.

Vickie Remoe:
Belleh clean na di most important quality in a person. And what lacks sadly in many SL folks. But I am totally serious. I know so many good guys who have loved me and I couldn’t date them or be with them but who are really great guys. And could and should make some other Sierra Leonean woman happy

Abu Kamara:
lol well Yes me belleh very clean. I know what you are saying though, we lack quality ppl inside out (men and women) from Salone. Well I have no baggage and pretty humble n down to earth if that counts for something . I keep my options open though and not the type to rush into relationships.

Vickie Remoe:
Do you believe in God?

Abu Kamara:
Hey which kind question this lol. I believe in God, but feel organized religions are somewhat hijacked by folks with selfish motives. Basically all the major religion are true at the core – in simplistic truths, but the teachings and traditions are full of deception all to grab power and control money

Vickie Remoe:
What keeps you up at night?

Abu Kamara:
Oprah u get question dem oh. Right now business and socializing here n there. More so business

Vickie Remoe:
Haha. What about the business keeps you up at night. What specifically

Abu Kamara:
As long as u r not NSA Ghana Im good eh. I do small stuff in China and Middle East, so staying up to make calls and answer emails

Vickie Remoe:
Haha. What would a woman find most troubling about you? As in your flaws.

Abu Kamara:
Troubling hmmm I like freedom but more so in a good way..u know space – let her go on trips with her friends and me likewise. Most women are not comfortable with that. Sometimes speaking to female friends may look like I’m flirting which is totally wrong. I guess its the insecure woman that will see that as a problem. The biggest one is I’M HARD HEADED…TRANGA YAIS. I guess its the taurus in me. Once my mind is set, its hard to change me lol

Vickie Remoe:
Damn a Taurus.  Smh I dated one. Haha. Was incredibly loyal and devoted but oh DI TRANGA HAS. Haha. Well I don’t believe a woman can change a man. But a man will change on his own to make a woman he loves happy. Who are you closest to in your family?

Abu Kamara:
EXACTLY One thing about our character is we are very loyal and great friends. Right now it will be hard to change me, but I adjust for the right woman.

 

My brother is the closest B Smooth – I think you are friends with him. My family is much different than your standard family lol— kinda crazy.

Vickie Remoe:
Why are they crazy?

Abu Kamara
 I was raised by my uncle in Freetown. Born in NJ, USA and grew in Salone until I was 16 – when the war hit Freetown. Why make ah de tell u all dis bah lol…u sabi squeeze question eh

Vickie Remoe:
What do you like the most about women in general. What is it about women or a woman that makes you think, I wanna get to know her?

Abu Kamara:
THE MIND. Mental is the most valuable asset. Beauty is common – very common if you ask me. Personal I prefer both, but at the end of the day your woman is your number one adviser, and if you have a clown….there goes your personal and professional success. Yes so a strong, intelligent, down to earth (key), personal, gorgeous woman in and out. The mind is key. I don’t have time for beautiful women with water heads. I am making good moves in life and will like a lady that complements me. I am very down to earth and see that as an additional plus from a lady. You never know when you’ll be stuck in a jail in India etc — will I count on just a beautiful wife to navigate the bureaucracies and work with authorities to get me out? Or will she be able to hold down the family at that time?

Vickie Remoe:
Hahahahaaha. Imma need u to not get locked up first of all

Abu Kamara:
haha that’s real though Vickie

Vickie Remoe:
If you met the right woman today and by right I mean the woman who is right for you, how long would it take you to pop the question?

Abu Kamara:
Hey it takes time to know the “right woman” you know. People have to feel each other, get to know all the bad and good habits. Fitting in a criteria is only a first step. So honestly I don’t know how long or if I will pop the question. You only know ppl when you know them

Vickie Remoe:
Those r the words of a man who is a non believer and might have settling down issues. Haha

Abu Kamara:
Lol seriously though I used to have issues settling down – thus calling off an engagement for the right reasons back in 2009. I am much more matured now and know what I want. It takes a lil time to see if the lady fits that bill

Vickie Remoe:
And I am saying when she fits the bill and if she does how long will it take. It’s okay to not believe in marriage too.

Abu Kamara:
I fully believe in marriage – real talk. But my honest answer is I don’t know. Whenever I see that she fits the bill, you best believe Im making a move. One more thing. I prefer a woman with a global perspective in life. Someone well traveled or is very open to travel and living in other countries if need be!

Vickie Remoe:
Ya making moves hunh
Okay last and final question
When someone has really really hurt you, what can they do to make up? How do you get back to love? Whats the best way to say sorry to Abu

Abu Kamara:
Well for one I look at ppls character and judge from that. If I honestly think they are sorry – its by accepting your actions and apologizing for it and honestly mean it. I don’t tend to hold grudges because ppl r ppl. Knowing someones character takes time. Words are words, actions are actions – ppl will act a certain way to please someone else. Character is the test of time – which is why I stress it takes time to know someone. If you know the persons character is opposite of the action or words that deeply hurt you and they truly apologize — I will accept that and move forward

Vickie Remoe
Amazing
Ok u r a catch

3 Comments
  1. Great stuff Vickie. I like Some of their answers, particularly Abu’s answer to what he is looking for in a woman…The Mind. When a man starts thinking like that, I think he is mature and almost ready for prime time. My only challenge for the guys you interviewed is how they just couldn’t get it when it came to “what kept them up at night”. Not sure they really understood, and hence literarily answered your question. I think it was supposed to be the most important question that will give an idea to all our beautiful Sierra Leonean singles out there about what is important to these guys. But great stuff. And even more so that you started with the guys. Because we always pervade this notion it is women who are looking for good men, and not the other way.

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